Saturday, October 06, 2007

The Addict


I see him everyday.

He just sits and sways.

He had a stomach to feed.

And yes a mind, so what if full of greed?

He had no money to spare.

But he had his own share.

Of?

Things unknown to you and me.

Things we don’t everyday see.

Pangs of hunger.

Lack of slumber.

Yet he dared to dream.

One day to be society’s cream.

He wanted a house a son and a wife.

Who was he?

He was the addict.

Addicted to LIFE.

What shall I write about??

“What shall I write about?” thought the poet.

Cried the beggar, “cant you see me and my crippled limbs,

Write about me o’poet and my fight for bread crumbs.”

Cried the mother, “write about me oh poet,

I have a son on the borders to be sent.”

“where’s your attention dear poet?” roared the king of the jungle.

“ you have killed me and left my skin with flies to mingle.”

“ o my see what you have done to me.” sobbed the oak.

“I have been stabbed and cut and my branches all broke.”

“ stop it, stop it!” pleaded the poet.

“ I shall write about all of you dears.” He said.

Eyes stinging with tears.

Sunday, April 01, 2007

SHASHI ON SUNDAY:Save the sari from a sorry fate

SHASHI ON SUNDAY: Save the sari from a sorry fate (the times of india, sunday 25th march)
Shashi Tharoor

For centuries, if not millennia, the alluring garment, all five or six or nine yards of it, has been the defining drape of Indian womanhood. Cotton or silk, BanarasIor Pochampalli, shimmering Kanjeevaram or multi-coloured bandhani, with the pallav draped front-to-back over the left shoulder or in the GujaratIstyle back-to-front over the right, the sari has stood the test of time, climate and body shape. Of all the garments yet invented by man (or, not to be too sexist about it, mankind) the sari did most to flatter the wearer.

Unlike every other female dress on the planet, the sarIcould be worn with elegance by women of any age, size or shape: you could never be too fat, too short or too ungainly to look good in a sari. Indeed, if you were stout, or bowlegged, or thick-waisted, nothing concealed those handicaps of nature better than the sari. Women looked good in a sari who could never have got away with appearing in public in a skirt.

So why has this masterpiece of feminine attire begun fading from our streets? On recent visits home to India I have begun to notice fewer and fewer saris in our public places, and practically none in the workplace. The salwar kameez, the trouser and even the Western dress-suit have begun to supplant it everywhere. And this is not just a northern phenomenon, the result of the increasing dominance of our culture by Punjabi-ised folk who think nothing of giving masculine names to their daughters.

At a recent press conference I addressed in Thiruvan-athapuram, there were perhaps a dozen women journalists present. Only one was wearing a sari: the rest, all Keralites without exception, were in salwar-kameezes. And when I was crass enough to ask why none of the "young ladies" present wore saris, the one who did modestly suggested that she was no longer very young.

Youth clearly has something to do with it; very few of today's under-30 women seem to have the patience for draping a sari, and few of them seem to think it suitable for the speed with which they scurry through their lives. ("Try rushing to catch a bus in a sari," one young lady pointedly remarked, "and you'll switch to jeans the next day.") But there's also something less utilitarian about their rejection of the sari for daily wear.

Today's younger generation of Indian women seem to associate the garment with an earlier era, a more traditional time when women did not compete on equal terms in a man's world. Putting on pants, or a Western woman's suit, or even desi leggings in the former of a salwar, strikes them as more modern. Freeing their legs to move more briskly than the sari permits is, it seems, a form of liberation; it removes a self-imposed handicap, releasing the wearer from all the cultural assumptions associated with the traditional attire.

I think this is actually a great pity. One of the remarkable aspects of Indian modernity has always been its unwillingness to disown the past; from our nationalists and reformers onwards, we have always asserted that Indians can be modern in ancient garb. Political ideas derived from nineteenth and twentieth-century thinkers have been articulated by men in mundus and dhotis that have not essentially changed since they were first worn 2,000 or 3,000 years ago. (Statuary from the days of the Indus Valley Civilisation more than 4,000 years ago show men draped in waistcloths that Mr KarunanidhIwould still be happy to don.)

Gandhiji demonstrated that one did not have to put on a Western suit to challenge the British empire; when criticised by the British press for calling upon the King in his simple loincloth, the Mahatma mildly observed, "His Majesty was wearing enough clothes for the two of us". Where a Kemal Ataturk in Turkey banned his menfolk's traditional fez as a symbol of backwardness and insisted that his compatriots don Western hats, India's nationalist leaders not only retained their customary headgear, they added the defiantly desi 'GandhIcap' (oddly named, since Gandhiji himself never wore one). Our clothing has always been part of our sense of authenticity.

I remember being struck, on my first visit to Japan some 15 years ago, by the iniquitousness of Western clothing in that Asian country. Every Japanese man and woman in the street, on the subway or in the offices I visited wore suits and skirts and dresses; the kimono and its male equivalent were preserved at home, and brought out only for ceremonial occasions. An Asian ambassador told me that envoys were expected to present their credentials to the Emperor in a top hat and tails.

This thoroughgoing Westernisation was the result of a conscious choice by the modernising Meiji Emperor in 1868. One sees something similar in China today: though the transformation is not nearly as complete as in Japan, the streets of Beijing and Shanghai are more and more thronged with Chinese people in Western clothes. In both Japan and China, I allowed myself to feel a perverse pride that we in India were different: we had entered the 21st century in clothes that our ancestors had sported for much of the preceding 20.

Today, I wonder if I’ve been too complacent. What will happen once the generation of women who grew up routinely wearing a sari every day dies out? The warning signs are all around us now. It would be sad indeed if, like the Japanese kimono, the sari becomes a rare and exotic garment in its own land, worn only to temples and weddings. Perhaps it's time to appeal to the women of India to save the sari from a sorry fate.

Wednesday, March 28, 2007

Dear Mr. Shashi Tharoor!!!!!

(my reply to the article by shashi tharoor mentioned above)

Lets us get to the point. The sari indeed faces a sorry fate, here in India. But since I belong to the much criticized younger generation which does not believe in wearing saris, I thought I must provide you with this side of the story.

Like many a young women must have told you, the sari is in reality cumbersome. As we compete on equal terms today, we would like to be more comfortable in what we wear. We would like to think more clearly about other issues rather than worry about whether our pallav is in place. Also the fact that we really have to run a marathon race every single day of our life- in buses and trains- makes the sari slightly obsolete. I remember, when I wore a sari for ‘traditional day’ in college, it was very difficult to carry the entire ensemble with billowing pallavs for an entire day. Let alone throughout my life.

You are right when you say that there is something less utilitarian about rejection of sari as a daily wear. I feel empowered when I wear salwar kameez and go to work because I can stop thinking that I am a woman. I forget that I have a gender. I am at ease and I am just ‘me.’ It also helps to increase secularism. When me and my colleagues, all wear similar kind of clothes whether trousers, skirts or salwar kameez, we all forget about our religions and castes and work productively in a conducive environment.

As you have said, you do not want to be sexist. But alas! You have ended up being one! (Perhaps unknowingly) I find it amusing that you should notice the change in attire of Indian women only. Indian men, I am sure, also have stopped wearing the traditional attire- the ‘Dhoti.’ In fact the dhoti has become outdated even before the sari. At least the remnants of a sari are visible. The dhoti has performed the invisibility act a long time ago. How many times have you seen men decked up in dhotis, jackets and a Gandhi cap going to work? The inspirational leaders you talk about were all from the early 20th century. My mother who belongs to the previous generation still wears a sari. My father on the other hand, has never even seen a dhoti, let alone wear it. Why don’t we do justice to both sexes then and criticize them equally? Why single out women and blame them for deciding to decrease donning the sari? Isn’t that sexist Mr.Tharoor?

You have cited the example of Gandhiji who attended the round table conference draped in a dhoti. Inspiring indeed! But as a representative of Indian culture on a platform as great a s the UN, why haven’t you considered wearing the dhoti or even Kurta Pajamas? I know you respect our culture then why not show it in your attire as well, since charity begins at home.

Worth a thought would you say?